Trust, Gossip and Family

Well its been awhile for me to post. Lots been happening with my family and it just seems like there is not enough time in the day anymore to live life let alone blog.

Lets see , Im gonna jump around here a bit and type as things come to mind.

Trust.

OK, we have a friend that we borrowed some cash to a few years ago and he did pay it back but it took FOREVER to get it back from him. This is a person that is going through some really bad family problems, divorce, a child with a physical handicap and another little boy and a high pressure job. This has been going on with him for a few years now. And also $$$$ problems (mainly due to all the medical bills for his daughter). He LOVES his children and would do anything for them. Well I am ALWAYS trying to call him, talk to him , you know just be there for him if he needs someone. Well for some reason he never calls back or takes advantage of me wanting to be there for him. Maybe he is embarrassed of all his problems and sees me and my family so perfect (yeah right). But I do consider him a good friend even though he doesn't talk to me much.

Well last Monday I called him at his job and he ANSWERED his cell. I asked whats up and I could tell something was wrong. He was almost in tears from his voice. I asked what was wrong, and he said he had gotten himself into a major problem.

What he did was "borrow" some cash in a deal to pay some back property taxes or he was going to loose his house. He was going to submit the deal that Friday with the money from his bonus check. Well someone saw the deal and asked the head people "why it wasn't in yet". The V.P. took him into his office and he came clean and explained why he did it. The V.P. wanted this to stay on the down low but he had to have the cash turned in with the deal that day or he had no choice to "let him go".

Ok, now he NEVER even asked for us to help him out and never insinuated it to me. He just said he needed to go and try a figure things out.

So I know we can help him out until Friday with cash that I needed Friday for a bill. I call my wife and told her about what was going on and I told her I wanted to help him. Well she was surprised I think because of the last time. She wasn't really for it but she said she could tell it was something I really wanted to do, so it was up to me. But to remember if he doesn't pay it back on Friday that Im up a creek.

I REALLY thought he would pay it back right away. So I called him up and he was in a meeting at that point with the V.P.. I asked him if he was able to take care of his problem and he said NO and he was going to be fired in a few minutes. At that point in time I told him to tell his boss that it was taken care of and would be in by days end.

We took care of it and he had his job. He couldn't believe that I helped him out because he feels hes not the best of friends because of how he blows me off so much. I told him that Im a unconditional friend and would always be there for him.

Friday came and he paid back every penny!!

So for those of you who read this.

Is he a bad person for doing what he did?
If it meant saving your house for your children would you do the same thing?

JOB 38:41 "Who provides food for the raven when its young cry out to god and wander about for lack of food"

I feel he had no other choice to provide. Its hard to say what you would do in that position.

Gossip:

I really wish people would stop it!!

I asked this person to read Proverbs and maybe it would help them. There is a lot about gossip in there.

Family:

Wow, where do I begin I could write forever!!!

My son wrecked his car "his fault". My daughter broke her foot "her fault". My wife fell and hurt her leg " houses fault". So it has been VERY edgie around here and I feel like im on pins and needles sometimes.

This has really tested our family and me. With all this going on I used to just blow and yell and leave go to soccer and be in my own world.

Ive done the best I can. We haven't been able to go to church the last 2 weeks due to snow. It s been hard I feel myself slipping back into old ways but I caught myself but not hearing P Guy and his talks I think I need that.

We went this Sunday and it was about marriage "For Better Or Worse". It is great what P Guy says gods wants us to do in marriage. The word "Unconditionally" came up. We should LOVE our wives all the time with that word. The wives should respect us guys that word all the time. Thats what god wants.

One last thing. The church is planning on going to Africa for a mission trip and I REALLY WANT TO GO!!! There is something inside me that is telling me I need to go. Maybe it will be the turning point with me accepting JC.
My wife doesn't want me to go because she cant at this point, I would really love to do something with her in the future when time allows and kids grow.

I just really hope the JC comes to her and shows her that is something he wants me to do and I can go with her blessing.


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