Well that is the question that Im asking myself today
"Should we ever grow up"
What do I mean by that you might be asking?
Over the past few weeks there has been some "stuff "that has happened between people I know and if you really think about it , it is just like seventh grade stuff. This person is talking to this person so that person is mad at that person so another person is afraid to talk to that person because the other person may get mad at them. Got that all?
Now believe me the one person has their reasons why they are upset (mad is a bad word, I feel upset is better). I 100% see their reasoning for being upset and hurt.
My problem is I feel I cant comfort this person with the right words,even though I understand what they are feeling and going through. I think to myself would I feel this way if this happened to me. Yes I would to a point, but would I let it go to the point that they are letting it go. I cant honestly say yes or no until I would be put in that situation.
The problem that Im having with this is, The one person that has been hurt has told this other person all the reasons that they are hurt and told them how bad they hurt them. Also explained that they were not mad but really hurt and that they thought the world of their friendship. After being told these things the person really hasnt had any response or hasnt attempted to even try to make things some what right. They just think that the person is wrong for being hurt by their actions and it seems that there may not be a way to make things up.
I know it sound so seventh grade but remember back than when that childish stuff like this happened back then how everyone "took sides" for awhile and then in a week or so everyone just forgot about it and all was back to normal.
Why doesn't that happen when we are grown. Why cant we just forgive and move on and try again? I truly believe everyone deserves a second (or maybe third chance). But as adults we just dont do that anymore or we dont let ourselves do it.
Believe me Im in a mess also with a person I was close to and I really hurt them in some ways.
I accepted it and have made EVERY attempt to make it right and this person just wont let me back in and I cant understand. Im truly sorry for what I did, but they wont give me forgiveness.
How can children just forgive so easy and move on like things never have happened but us as adults cant, wont or dont?
Should we be the ones teaching our children about forgiveness but it seems like that we can learn a lot about life from children.
I have learned lately in church that JC will forgive us for just about everything and anything. Im sure there is something in the bible about this (anyone knows please share). So if he can forgive everyone why is it so hard for other people to forgive and see hurt and be sorry for their actions?
Maybe we should all try and keep some childness in ourselves.
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The bible talks about forgiveness in many places. These are just a few.
"Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."(Eph 4:31-32)
Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (NIV)
Matthew 18:21-22
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. (NIV)
Mark 11:25
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins. (NIV)
Forgiveness is hard sometimes. Especially when the person who we need to forgive is ourselves or someone who doesn't think they did anything wrong. All we can do sometimes is pray. Pray that we do really forgive the person and pray that we don't hold onto any bitterness toward that person. If someone like a friend has truly hurt us or doesn't want to take responsibility for their actions...we may end up in a different relationship with that person because we know that they don't have our best interest at heart. So even though you may forgive that person...it might be healthier for you to take a step back from a close friendship with that person because they don't value truth and honesty in the same way that you do.
You also can't be headed one way and still hold tight to your friends who are headed the other way. Forgiveness is a definate must...but we don't have to foolishly walk back into old patterns just because we've forgiven someone.
If you look at all of the scriptures that were posted earlier look at who Jesus is talking to. He is talking to the person who needs to forgive. Here's a question, is true forgiveness for us or the other person? True forgiveness is for you because if you harbor this ill feeling you are the one being bogged down. All you can do is ask for forgiveness and then if the other person accepts it--that's up to them. This isn't done in a bad manner but with true forgiveness. The way you know if you really forgave someone is if you truly want them to prosper.
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